Breaking Up with Facebook

Dear Facebook,

We need to talk. It’s been almost 7.5 years since we started seeing each other, and I don’t think it’s working out anymore. I’d like to say it’s not you, it’s me, but that’s just not entirely true. We’ve both changed so much since we first got together and, though change is good, I’m just not sure we’re on the same page anymore.

I remember the early days, when we first started seeing each other. I was a University student and you’d only been around for a couple of years (I had to have an approved university email address to sign up for you). As it was a number of my friends had already signed up for you by the time I finally decided to check you out. We didn’t really click right away, but it was nice getting to know you in those early days. You were so simple compared to now. I was able to write on my friends’ walls and tell people what I was doing (so long as it could be written in sentence that began with “Meaghan is…”). If I had a bit more to say, I could write a “note.” You helped me connect with and stay in touch with some great people!

And then slowly you started to get more and more popular. Don’t get me wrong, that was a good thing for you. It was so much fun connecting with people I hadn’t seen in years! There are people I am connected with today that I may never have reconnected with if it wasn’t for you. Admittedly, there were times when that same feature was a bit awkward (Did that person really just send me a friend request… they didn’t even like me in school… in fact, I seem to remember they could be kind of mean… did they just add me so they could boost their friend count?)

You have some great qualities and we have had some great times. I love that you’ve helped me stay connected to my friends who have moved far away. I’ve enjoyed seeing pictures of my friends weddings and babies and cats and dogs (and everything else in between). I’ve had fun coming up with (what I thought were) witty and funny status updates. I’ve enjoyed reading other people’s status updates. (Not to mention those times you’ve helped me casually find out more about that cute boy from class…) You really do allow for a good deal of positive interaction. 

So, why am I breaking up with you if you’re so great? Believe me that is a question I have been asking myself for a while now. Ever since I started thinking about walking away. I want to spend more time connecting with the real people in my life. I know, I know, that is your purpose, but it’s not the same. Reading someone’s status updates throughout the week is not the same as sitting down and talking to them. It’s not the same as a phone call or a text conversation or an email. Maybe I’ll have to settle for connecting with less people, or with people less often. But maybe… just maybe… those connections will be more meaningful more often.

I also want to spend more time writing – really writing. I can’t help but think that if I eliminated all of those “quick” pops over to see you during the day I could get more writing done. Maybe I’ll just transfer time spent on you to time spent on another website. But maybe sometimes I’ll spend that time writing a new blog post, or working on a story… If I can do that, I think it’ll be worth it.

Am I going to miss you? Yes, I probably will. I’ll miss the way you let me quickly catch up with people. I’ll miss the joy of discovery when a friends posts a link to a song they’ve just found. Most of all I’ll miss the updates from my friends who now live far away… that’s probably what’s kept me around for so long. But people managed to stay in touch with long distance friends before you came along and I’m confident I can find a way to make it work.

7.5 years is a long time. It’s strange to think about what life will be like after we break up. I’m sure there will be days when I regret my decision, when I want to come crawling back so I can get in my daily dose of mindless scrolling. I know if I were to decide to come back you would welcome me back with open arms. You might even tell me that you missed me while I was away. But the thing is – you won’t. I’m going to leave tomorrow and you won’t miss me. You won’t even realize I’ve gone. You’ve got millions of other friends that you see every day.

Though we can’t stay friends, I think we can part amicably.

Adieu,

To all of my dear Facebook friends. I truly have enjoyed being part of your lives through Facebook and my hope is we will stay connected, it’ll just look different. I’m not trying to discount Facebook as a method of communication or as a place to hang out – I know it is enjoyed and well used by many. I’ve just decided it isn’t for me anymore. Please follow me over here on my blog (My blog Facebook page will remain active for the foreseeable future).  And please – connect with me in real life! (For those who I am not lucky enough to see on a regular basis I hope we’ve already exchanged contact information whether that be email, phone or Skype). I will miss “liking” all of your photos, videos and status updates – and know that if I start “liking” and giving things a thumbs up in real life, it’s probably just a symptom of quitting Facebook cold turkey. (If you had seen the number of times I clicked over to Facebook during the writing of this post you would seriously question my commitment to leaving). M.E.F.

Keep Smiling!

Megra12

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Library Day Friday 2014

Happy New Year Everyone!

Hope everyone had a good holiday and is ready for 2014, because ready or not, it is here. Did you make any New Years Resolutions this year?

I’m not a big “New Years Resolutions” person. I am a big goals person, however. I think that goals can and should be sent throughout the year, whenever you stumble across something in your life that you wish to achieve or change. You don’t have to wait until the beginning of a new week, a new month, or a new year, to set goals for yourself. Though, I concede that ‘beginnings’ are natural turning points in many ways.

“Um… Megra? This post is titled ‘Library Day Friday 2014’ but you are 2 paragraphs in and haven’t mentioned a single book yet…” Yes. I know. I am getting there, I promise. I decided to combine my New Years and my first Library Day post into one this week. I’ll mention books and reading and the direction for Library Days by the end!

Okay, so where was I? Oh, right, goals. Though I don’t typically make big resolutions at New Years, I do have a few goals for 2014 that just happen to have surfaced as the old year faded away. I thought I would share some of those goals with you, my lovely readers, as some of them are related (either directly or indirectly) to this blog. Starting this year I want to write more and I want to read more. (Yes, I know, those are really broad goals. Patience. Does this post look finished to you?).

1. First off, reading. As I have mentioned in the past, I have always been an avid reader. In 2012 I challenged myself to read 100 books. At that time I had no idea whether that was a reasonable goal or not. I didn’t know if it would be easy compared to what I normally read, or a major challenge. That fall I started Grad School and with one thing and another I stopped keeping track of books read. So, this year I’m leaving the number where it is and challenging myself once again to read 100 books this year. <Megra12 note: I will update you periodically on my progress here. If you would like more frequent updates, you can check out my challenge here on goodreads.> As a side goal to reading more, I want to write about and recommend more books. I want to keep a better record of why I like certain books and keep a list of my favourite quotes from those books. So, what does this mean for you? Well, it hopefully means more Book excerpts, mini reviews, What I’m readings, and Book recommendation posts. Unless I change my mind at some point this year, all of these types of posts will be features on Library Day Fridays. If I post any book related posts on other days of the week, I will make sure to link to them on Fridays.

2. Writing. I want to write more this year. I want to make writing a priority in my life and make a habit of writing everyday. Even if it’s only a little bit. Now, this in and of itself, is not a new goal. This is a goal I have had for awhile now and one I started focusing on in September once again. Up to this point I have not succeeded in writing something everyday, but I am getting better. My writing goals for 2014 do not stop at just writing and blogging more. I have specific writing I would like to focus on. You see, for the past couple months I have been entertaining the idea of beginning a novel. To be clear, this isn’t a new thought, as such. I’ve considered it many times in the past. Most times, though, I brush it off and decide I don’t really have any good ideas. Or, I don’t have the necessary skills to write a novel. Or, I’m probably going to give up part way through anyways, so why start… hold on. That last one is a pretty lame excuse. And it sounds an awful lot like fear of failure. For that matter, all of them sound an awful lot like fear of failure. And a fear of failure is no reason to not try.

So this year I am going to start writing a novel. (I’ll tell you what, that is still a scary sentence to write).

3. (What there’s a third goal? You only mentioned two earlier?) Scrapbooking and Smash booking. I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned this before, but I enjoy scrapbooking and smash booking (if you don’t know what this is I’m planning on writing about it soon so stay tuned). This year I would like to be more intentional about taking pictures, documenting life, and creating in this way. I may even start posting some of my craftiness on here. (New series perhaps?)

If you made it to the end of this long post, congratulations! I can’t wait for what this year will bring, and I hope you will continue to join me on my Meanderings.

Happy 2014 and Keep Smiling!

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” — H. Jackson Brown